Anonymous said: Ok so i love your blog and your amazing. Anyways I've been waiting for my first kiss for awhile, i wanted to save it for the right person and i found him :) and i'm completely nervous because we always talk about it and want to do it. I dont know how in the world to kiss nor does he. What should i do and if you dont mind how did your first kiss go?
Honestly, your first kiss is gonna be totally awkward hahahaha but the good news is you can be awkward together! Haha but no, to be serious - you’ll both instinctively know what to do. Your body is programmed to kiss and all that. So it’ll just work.
My first kiss was a little awkward because I was nervous and the guy I was with was way more experienced than I was. But I got it over with and was surprised that my mouth knew what to do without even thinking. Plus then i kissed some more and got comfortable and really enjoyed it.
Hope this helps! And I’m glad you love my blog :)
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Anonymous said: My boyfriend knows I'm pretty um how do I put it, naive at certain things but I think he assumes that I'm comfortable with sexual acts and I kind of am since I'm sure about him but like sometimes how he does things kind of ruins his image of him in me. Am I making any sense? Anyway, if I am, is that wrong? I feel like I'm being judgmental for a girlfriend who says she's sure about her bf
I think that everyone’s comfort levels are different. Things you don’t mind doing could be totally strange to me and vice versa. It just takes getting used to the other person. You’ll learn his preferences and he’ll learn yours. But my tip is that you should never do anything you don’t feel comfortable doing. Guys are easily directed haha like if a guy is being too rough and fast, I’ll touch him slowly and softly - because he’s feeling what you’re doing he’ll react accordingly. Or take his hands and put them where you want (like your back or your hair or whatever)
Take initiative and work things towards a place that you’re more comfortable at and talk to him about things you’d rather do and how you’d rather do them
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"I heard what you said. I’m not the silly romantic you think. I don’t want the heavens or the shooting stars. I don’t want gemstones or gold. I have those things already. I want…a steady hand. A kind soul. I want to fall asleep, and wake, knowing my heart is safe. I want to love, and be loved."-Shana Abe
"I am no expert on love,
But I have a few suggestions to keeping your love alive.
1- Don’t fall asleep angry. But if you do, wake up in the middle of the night and hold her as close as you can.
2- Laugh during sex, especially if you bump heads. If you aren’t laughing, you’re with the wrong person.
3- If you don’t feel comfortable dancing naked with your partner and showing them your four chins when you laugh, you’re doing it wrong.
4- Romance isn’t for everyone, but a post-it note in their lunchbox telling them they’re the best will never go amiss.
5- Don’t cling to them at parties. Dance with friends and spend time with acquaintances, but wink at each other across the room.
6- Keep everything 50/50, or you will fall out of balance.
7- Stop comparing your relationship to others- you are you, don’t try to be someone else.
8- Be kind. Give them space when they need it, but be their home when they come back.
9- Be proud to love them.
10- Support them through whatever they do in life, even if it’s a stupid decision. People need to make their own mistakes, but be there if it falls apart, and never say ‘I told you so’.
And most of all, love with your whole heart, or don’t love at all."
Driving around aimlessly with the person you love is one of the best feelings in the world. It’s not rushed or stressful or busy. Taking the time to breathe. Not going anywhere or doing anything. Letting your love fill the car and take over.
Happiness in its truest form.
"Once you lose someone, it is never exactly the same person who comes back."-Sharon Olds, Satan Says